We Need to Talk about Parental Alienation and Parentification
Parental alienation is one of the most serious issues in custody cases. Flat out, it is illegal, and it is child abuse. It's a quick way to lose custody. Do not do it. Period. Parental alienation is when a parent tries to turn the child(ren) against the other parent. In a divorce situation, this includes talking about the court case at all (especially if you tell the kid(s) that you're the victim and the other parent is hurting you and them), talking about what the other parent has done or said to hurt you, saying that you love the child(ren) more than the other parent does, or comparing yourself favorably to the other parent. Using mean nicknames in front of the child(ren) and even convincing stepchildren to speak badly about the other parent or use negative nicknames for the other parent are all parental alienation and off limits. Talking negatively about the other parent in the child's hearing or directly toward the child or even going further, making the child